Thursday, March 31, 2011

Letting the cat out of the bag.

We found out pretty early (5 weeks) that we were indeed expecting.  Knowing quite a few people that had miscarried we thought we'd better keep it to ourselves and family for a while.  Little did we know how hard it would be to keep quiet. 

First I told my sister Jessica before I even told Josh.  Then we called his parents.  The next morning I had to tell Camille and Jason my sister-in-law and brother.  Camille had wanted me to get pregnant more then just about anyone but Josh's mom.  Then Friday night we decided to head to Provo to tell my parents.  First stop my Dad's to tell him and Reagan.  I got Reagan a doll and told her she better get some practice in because we were going to have 3 babies this year.  Or as my dad said tres bambinos.  Then we went to my mom's and told her.  Everyone was excited for us.  And we found out that people had been worried about me being sad to not be pregnant with Jess and Camille.  I never really felt that way at all though. 

Josh was playing the role of proud papa very well and just couldn't keep it to himself.  He would tell anyone that he talked to.  So our friends found out fairly quickly.  They are so excited to have a little baby in the group to love and spoil and play house music to. 

After our ultra-sound we felt more comfortable telling people and began to tell extended family.  I told my mom's side of the family at my great-grandmothers viewing for the most part.  We showed off the little picture of what I termed "the blob."  Our silly picture in no way resembled a baby but we couldn't help show it off anyways. 

Once we were sure the important people had heard the announcement from us, we could come out with it on Facebook and let "everyone" know.  Finally it was no longer a secret.  Not that we had been good at keeping it in the first place.  

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Doctor, Doctor.

At the top of the list of things to do once finding out we were pregnant was getting a doctor.  I did the research for what my insurance would cover as far as hospitals and doctors in our area.  I was pleased to find out that the new hospital in the valley, IMC, was the closest and was also covered under our plan.  I also found out that many doctors had an office right in the Women and Children Center, where I would be delivering.  So I called on of the offices and had them pick a doctor.  (I couldn't really find any referrals or anything else to go off of.)  Our appointment wasn't until 8 weeks which was February 16th. And we couldn't wait to go to make sure everything was alright.

The day finally arrived.  After paperwork and vitals the doctor came in to do an exam.  And we finally got a peek at our little one.  The ultra-sound showed that there was indeed a baby and we watched the little heartbeat.  What a welcome relief that was. The doctor asked us if we had any questions.  We asked the few that we did questions we did have.  (We had been doing our homework and felt pretty good about knowing things.) And that was that.  Besides the ultra-sound everything seemed kind of anticlimactic.

Sometime between when I made the doctors appointment and when it came we had watched a few documentaries and read a few books.  And we had realized that we would rather have a natural childbirth with a mid-wife assisting then a more "traditional" OB-GYN birth.  But when I called to get into the mid-wife I couldn't get into until after the OB appointment.  So I decided to keep them both and then make a more educated decision on what would be best for us.  We did have a few concerns that I could be labeled high-risk because of my weight and therefore need the OB.

The appointment with the mid-wife the next was the next week.  I had to fill out more forms and then tell them that I had already had an appointment with the OB that did all my blood work and exam.  So we just talked.  At first I had concerns about seeing a different mid-wife for each appointment and then getting which ever one was on call to deliver the baby.  But after talking with her we felt so much better about this route then the OB route.  Every mid-wife has the same ideas that birth is a natural condition.  By getting the mid-wife that is on call to deliver you can be sure that you have a fresh face to help you out.  Not a doctor who may have many other things going on.  The mid-wife also explained that each visit would be about on hour long as they had a list of things to teach you every time you came in.  This being our first baby the idea of education was amazing (as apposed to just answering the questions you already have).   We came out of that appointment feeling much better about what to expect with the pregnancy and delivery with the mid-wife then the OB.  Not to mention some of the other benefits like the fact that mid-wives are cheaper, and they can still do almost anything the doc can do except for a c-section.  But they have a doctor on-call in case the need should arise.  Even though we had seen the little one at the first appointment this one had left us with just the right feeling that this was right for us.

Tuesday, March 29, 2011

BFP

It was a quite Wednesday Night on January 19th, 2011 .  Josh was going to a friends house and I needed to get out of the house.  So I wandered around the Dollartree.  I picked up a few things and when I happened past the pregnancy tests I decided to grab two to have on hand.  Thinking they would most be for piece of mind if that "something" was running behind schedule that month.

I got home and then I after looking at my loot (how much candy does one need?).  I realized that that "something" was running behind schedule that month.  But the amount of chocolate I had just bought was surely a sign that "it" was coming right up.  I decided to take one of the tests, just in case.    

The test was showing two lines.  But it's from the dollar store so I just couldn't believe it.  I took the other test.  Still two lines.  I still couldn't trust the results. So I jumped in the car and got my in shock self to Target to buy a "real" test.  I got home with the three pack and tried to do my business with it.  But having peed on two sticks already I had nothing but a drop or two come out.  So I went to get more water to drink and thought I'd try again.  I happened back by I realized it had become positive off of that drop or two.  Now I was a believer.



How was I ever going to tell Josh?  Being creative was a bit out of the question at this time of night.  But I didn't want to just blurt it out either.  I just was hoping he wouldn't be at his friends too long.  I had to tell someone before I exploded.  I texted my sister Jess.  I couldn't wait to tell her so that we could "be pregnant" together. 

Thank heavens Josh wasn't long.  I asked him how his night was and then just pulled the test right out.  He was in pure shock at first and couldn't believe it.  But when he did he was so excited.  He had to call his parents right then.  Of course it was 11:30 at night, and I had always imagined "telling" in some fun way, but he called anyway.  They couldn't believe it and had to check in the morning to make sure it wasn't a dream.

Of course, there was no getting to sleep that night.  I had an appointment in the morning too.  An appointment I canceled after being up until sunrise looking up pregnancy stuff.  I figured out how far along I was (5 weeks) and my due date (September 24th).  Josh somehow managed to get a few hours of sleeping before going to work the next morning.

Then a few other things had started to make since after we realized I was indeed expecting.  Like why I had been sleeping so much the past week and a half.  And why it had become harder to just eat food.  I never in a million years thought that it would be so fast and easy to get pregnant (having tried before).  I guess timing is everything.  And it was the right time.

Monday, March 28, 2011

It all begins.

After turning 29 I really began to think about what I wanted to do with my life. (You know all the things you thought you would do before turning 30 are staring you in the face.)  Then on December 18, Josh and I got into a conversation (on a dancefloor of course) about having a baby.  We really talked about our fears and where we were and decided that we were ready.  Things were by no means perfect but never-the-less it was a good time for us.

We had always said we would wait until we were 30.  And this year we will be.  We had worried about our weight but having just lost a good chunk we felt more comfortable, plus we thought trying to have a baby would be very motivating to keeping us on the weight loss track.  We had just found out that Josh would be keeping his job (after a company change) and we had decided that my job was a good career path for me.  We had just become a two car family again after a period of only having one car.  We had worked hard that the previous year to get our bills down to basics.  And most of all it just felt right for the first time in our almost 8 years. 

I'd be lying if I said that the fact that my sister and sister-in-law were pregnant didn't have a little something to do with it.  We had always teased that we would all have our babies together.  Jess had announced that she was having a boy at Thanksgiving and Camille and Jason announced they were having a baby the first part of December.   That really got the wheels a spinning.  But overall I feel like it was the right time for us too.  And it's just so fun that we can all do it together.  And those cousins are going to be best buds.